Monday, April 18, 2011

Brussel sprouts and humble sauce

Marriage Language decoder part deux
Not even a dazed deer in the headlights could have appeared more frightened and full of trepidation. I think I might have spotted a bead of sweat on his temple. Looks warned me that I was treading right into the “THERE IS NO RIGHT ANSWER” game show, but I hit the buzzer anyway!

I know better... but I just couldn’t help myself.

Babe I’ve lost more weight this week can you tell?
What do you mean UMMMMM?
“Do you want me to lie here or tell the truth?”
Unsure if I should bust out in laughter, pinch him or act my age
Yes!!! “I want you to lie, Have I not made that clear over the last twenty plus years?”

“Lie until I smile!!!”

I think of a post from October "LANGUAGE DECODER".
I jest but marriage and relationships can be pretty tough at times. I think oft of the poem by Alfred Lord Tennyson

“I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all”

I find my continual struggle being that of humility and vulnerability. I like being vulnerable about as much as I like brussel sprouts, need I say more? Being strong and courageous has helped me survive some tremendous obstacles in life but it has also become a “yoke” around my neck at times. Having pride has enabled me to accomplish when I was told I never would. It’s all about pride and humility isn’t it?

Yes Lord I will take some humble sauce over my brussel sprouts.

‘Marriage requires attention, the moment you stop working on your marriage is the moment it begins to falter’

As crazy as we can make each other we equally and in an even greater way complement one another.

The flip side to being vulnerable is you get hurt sometimes. Without being open to hurt, you won’t be open to the joys of marriage and relationships. I love this quote…

"The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for."
— Bob Marley

When we have difficulty humbling ourselves before man, it’s a sure sign that we have not humbled ourselves before God either. There is a time to give and a time to receive.

So be content with who you are, and don't put on airs. God's strong hand is on you; he'll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you.

Sooo to be perfectly real here, taking in the verse above as literal as I can, "Don't put on airs" could be interpreted in such a manner that I would need to respond in just chucking something at that cape wearing hero of truth. The man I love my husband. Obviously making it a soft something.

#60 Communication
#61 Brussel sprouts
#62 Humble sauce
#64 My husband (again :)
#65 Laughter (again :)
#66 Weight loss
#67 Food :-)
#68 Tim Hawkins "The Wife song"


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  2. sorry, that last post was similar, only FULL of mistakes. It's early here. ;)

    "everyone's going to hurt you, you just got to the find the ones worth suffering for"...
    awesome. I really love this quote. I could hang it in my kitchen as a mantra to live by. When i want to be mad at my husband, to remember that he IS so worth the suffering of being sacrificial and forgiving him without needing anything from him to spur it on.

    Your writing resonates with me. I too and one of those women who has a harder time just stepping aside and letting God be the strong one. It's tough when you're raised in a way that engrains the virtue of self-power and strength to get by, and then we stumble headlong into God's perfect plan for his daughters.

    Only Him.
    Blessings to you. :)